Do I need a Wedding Day Manager? – A short series Cont.
Let’s see, where did we leave off last time? Oh! Yes. You are reassuring me that your trusted family member/friend/other can handle the Day of activities and random mishaps. Let’s talk through this.
Unless the person you are thinking of is a wedding professional (in which case, you are probably in very capable hands), things will go wrong.
Let us be clear about one thing: things go wrong at Weddings ALL. THE. TIME. “But my aunts wedding went off without a hitch!” you say. Good!! That means her vendors did a REALLY great job cleaning everything up so that she and the guests would think it went off without a hitch.
But things hardly ever go to plan. The DJ shows up late, one of the ceremony speakers stops working, the projector screen does not fit where you wanted it to go originally, up-lighting gets set up along a sliding door that needs to be able to open and close throughout the night, it rains, it’s too hot, it’s too windy, you forget your ring or marriage license at your house, your photographers need to be at separate locations but only brought one car. Or my absolute favourite problem that I’ve heard this year: the tent, which is supposed to hold 350 people, floods overnight due to a rainstorm.
So, what is your sister/cousin/friend going to do about a flooded tent the morning of your wedding?
Some people are very resourceful, and they will figure out a solution. My guess is that you, as the person whose wedding it is, will probably hear about this problem before it is resolved, though. This means that you will probably spend some time on your wedding day stressing about what is happening and how it’s being handled.
The best part of hiring any professional that people often forget about is peace of mind. When you pay for a service, you can be sure that will be taken care of and you don’t have to worry. The second part they forget is that weddings have a lot of moving pieces and you need something to keep them all moving in sync. Think of your wedding day as an orchestra band. The band can be amazing but if there is no conductor, there are going to be some problems, and someone is going to have to step into that role. Better to have someone with conductor experience in that role, than, say, a violinist.
The other problem with having a friend or family make sure things are going off without a hitch is that they will not be able to sit down and enjoy your wedding. They will be making sure that all the vendors have what they need for the next portion of the evening, that the individuals making the toasts know it’s almost their turn, and their dinner will go cold. They will either miss being in the pictures or they will miss telling the caterer that the pictures will be taking 30 minutes longer than anticipated and the food should not be set out yet.
At the end of the day, however, it is your decision how much stress you are willing to deal with on your wedding day, and what your priorities are. Wedding Day Managers make things easier, but if you are not a person who gets stressed out easily, this might not be something that you care too much about. And that’s okay! It is YOUR wedding and completely your choice in what you want to do.
Join us next week for a look at pricing, what you should look for in a wedding day manager or planner, and why the term “You get what you pay for.” is very applicable when looking at who to hire.